So NOW you want to workout with me?

’Feb’
’25’

Hi guys…

So I have a semi rant and wanted you all to weigh in..

Since being promoted, Mister has been assigned to a new station.  This station is very group oriented in which they workout together on their shift.  They are into crossfit and have pretty much punked Mister into joining them even when he tries to avoid them.  He has even gone as far as early am workouts before work with the other officers on his crew to “bond”.

Welp.. Mister has always asked me to help him when it comes to working out… when it is the 2 of us.. yeah I’m the fitness junkie and he.. the gamer.. It’s a necessary evil to him and when he does it he feels great but the moment he falls off.. you know the end to that story..

In the past, we have gotten into some really nasty arguments when he has asked me to be his accountability partner.  It would go from motivation real quick to him snapping at me if I asked “how did your workout go” so to save  him from a slow death our relationship, I vowed I wouldn’t be involved with him on that front.  I will cook healthy but your workout you are on your own.

Welp.. let’s fast forward.. last week we were chatting and he says..

“Dear… I think we should do Insanity together.. you know first thing in the am when I’m not heading in to play with the guys…”

STOP the presses.. Do what? When? WOW

I quickly reminded him of the vow I had taken.. I will not workout with you.. nope no sir.. I reminded him of the last time he almost didn’t see his birthday because of the tone he took with me for asking him how did his workout go.  He apologized and even said I let him off easy.. *really dude*.. but he is focused now and he knows that I need a little push and feels like we both could really motivate each other..

We’ve been down this road several times already.. I don’t think I want to go down it again.. Do you think it’s different because HE initiated it this time? Or should I stick to my guns & tell him to kick rocks! LOL

Weigh in please.. Thanks in advance!

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  • http://twitter.com/morphowings morphowings

    You should help him.  Even if he snaps at you.  Hey, since you know what’s going to happen already, you don’t have to get mad, you just have to wait.  Let it be a cycle and not an argument.  You know, like your period.  You know it has to happen.  Bad example?

    • BK

      LOL yeah bad example.. but thanks for your weigh in

  • Tazzee

    This is interesting because MM just got serious about his working out and initiated a challenge with me. We aren’t working out together, but we are checking in and encouraging one another. In the past, when we tried to workout together it just didn’t work. But he never snapped at me.

    I think you should give him another chance. But if he gets out of hand, just walk away. Don’t say anything, just walk away. Because he is initiating it, this time might be different but if not, you have experience here too if he asks again.

    I say this but I can’t guarantee I would be as forgiving if MM snapped at me in the past. I just hope I would be.

  • Dorothy Pleas

    I think you should do Insanity with him…it seems like a fun thing or the two of you to do together.  But I wouldn’t try to be his accountability partner.  If he falls off, then it is on him, and it is not your job to make him remember to work out.

  • http://twitter.com/singlema Tickled Pink

    You are physically fit, a coach, and a trainer at heart so I can imagine you as an accountability partner. Man naw. I think you should workout with him, but as his wife, not his accountability partner. Don’t let the lines blur and interfere with stirring the cocoa at home.  
    Establish a schedule so that it’s something you both look forward to doing together vs. a dreadful morning chore everyday. So if you plan to workout together on Mon/Wed/Fri mornings, get it in, have fun, and encourage each other. If one Monday rolls around and he doesn’t feel like working out, do the vid by yourself or something else. Then continue with the plan to workout together on Wednesday, and so on. If he misses too many consecutive days, talk about it and let it go. But keep doing the vid by yourself (it might inspire him to rejoin you again) or move on if you lose interest/motivation too.

  • http://twitter.com/Randilizm Randi

    I think you should do it. I have the same issue with my SO. On multiple occasions he’s asked me to be his accountability partner and then snaps when he’s falling off and I ask him whats going on. You know what happens when he snaps. I walk away and don’t say a damn thing about working out again. No arguments no nothing. It’s a one and done. First sign of an attitude and you on your own homie! lol

  • http://twitter.com/RevancheGS RevancheGS

    It’s funny, I’m Madam Accountability for money and PiC is Mister Accountability for fitness and we both get really annoyed if it feels like the other person is nagging. He wanted to get me a pedometer and I refused because I didn’t want an electronic tattletale!

    But here’s the thing: I love working out, I just hate having to be “realistic” about the workouts and hate being told how little I’ve worked out: I KNOW I DIDN’T. He’s not so much a fan of being told “spending is too high” because he felt like our income was just fine.
     
    What’s working for us right now: we agree on the goal and generally let the other person initiate the conversation about their “weak spot” (read: sensitivity). I lament how poorly workouts have gone and I ask HIM where we are in the budget so that the partner can be supportive or give feedback but the “dominant” person doesn’t initiate or trigger the rage.

    Given the history, you might be better off avoiding taking on the Accountability hat too. Just be his fitness partner w/no expectations (it was his idea!) and he’s not allowed to snap at you or you’re out! :)